When we start engaging in a conversation with someone, our minds generally start thinking a few steps ahead and therefore we miss out on the whole experience.
You know, ordinary people really say the most extraordinary things if you just listen out for it.
If we, as songwriters practise the art of actively listening to a conversation then we won’t miss out on anything. I can assure you that you’ll gain many more opportunities for gathering songwriting ideas if you do this.
It’s a known fact that songwriters like Bob Dylan, Paul Simon and Paul McCartney cite everyday conversations as the, primary sources of inspiration for some of their most well known songs.
Just think of it, as a songwriter, there’s always an opportunity to gather a new songwriting idea because the art of conversation happens on a day to day basis.
What we must do is learn to actively listen to what people say rather than just hear them and believe me, there is a huge difference between “hearing” and “listening.”
Active listening is, like any other skill, something that has to be practised over and over again because as human beings, listening does not come naturally to us.
To actively listen to someone requires us to be mindful of what we’re doing and to be fully in the moment. It requires us to give 100% of ourselves to the other person.
Active listening in a conversation means not thinking ahead about what you’re going to say next while the other person is talking. It’s almost like a form of meditation.
What you’re doing is emptying your mind so it can be filled with the conversation and it’s surroundings.
With active listening there is no doubt, no having to have words repeated back to you because you didn’t hear it the first time. Being in this head-space leaves you open to flashes of inspiration.
Once you become more skilled at this practise you’ll realise that everyone has something important to say.
There are other spin-offs in mastering the art of active listening. You’ll be greatly appreciated by others because you’re someone who really listens and understands them.
We live in a world where we are told time and time again that we have no time for ourselves, anyone or anything. This also means that we don’t take the time out to listen to other people because we are too busy to do so.
Very sad isn’t it?
When you get down to it people want to be happy, loved, validated, acknowledged, appreciated and listened to. Imagine, with your new found active listening skills how much of a breath of fresh air you will be to the people around you?
You will really get to know yourself and others a whole lot more and you’ll also have a constant stream of songwriting ideas at your disposal.
The world is an infinite song ideas machine and you already have the tools to operate it to your advantage.
Your eyes, ears, mouth, brain and heart.
Start really listening to everyone and everything around you today. Your songs will love you for it.
Until next time, keep on writing,
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